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The Cunnilinguist: How To Give And Receive Great Oral Sex

My latest book will be available early February 2019, just in time for Valentines..and surprise-surprise; it’s not fiction! The Cunnilinguist is something I’ve been working on for longer than I’d like to admit. It started life as a simple list of tips and over time, has taken on a life of it’s own. Below is a little teaser…if you’d like to snag a free copy, join the mailing list 😉

The Cunnilinguist Oral Sex Book- Cunnilingus Guide

The Cunnilinguist

Going down. Eating out. Rug-munching. Speaking in tongues. No matter what you call cunnilingus, talking about it is sometimes uncomfortable and awkward—Until now.

The Cunnilinguist is a refreshingly modern guide to oral sex with a sense of humor. Written by a woman experienced in and passionate about pleasure, this guide will build your confidence in giving—or receiving—oral sex.

You’ll learn tested tips, tricks and techniques that any giver or receiver can try. The Cunnilinguist has insights for readers from beginner to advanced, single to married, and regardless of gender or sexual orientation.

Written by Alex B Porter, – best selling author of lesbian erotic romance. Edited and Forward by Susan Harper, PhD – anthropologist, sociologist, sex educator, and professor of gender studies.

You’ll learn cunnilingus tips about how to:

  • Find and use pleasure points
  • Move from foreplay to oral sex
  • Overcome fears and insecurities
  • Make sex safe, hygienic and fun

You’ll learn next-level sex tips on how to:

  • Change up your positions
  • Use fingers, vibrators and dildos
  • Incorporate roleplay or power play
  • Spark intimacy before, during and after oral sex

And you’ll learn what not to do!

The Cunnilinguist includes the latest scientific research alongside firsthand advice from Alex B Porter, a woman with experience on both ends of the tongue.

Top tips from both ends of the tongue

I was very fortunate to be joined by Susan Harper on this book. Susan, who happens to actually be Susan B Harper (what a coincidence?!) came on board first as my editor and then also writing the Forward. As a researcher, anthropologist, sociologist and educator in sexuality and gender studies, Susan really helped turn this book into something special, and educated me significantly along the way. I can’t thank her enough. Here’s a tasty chunk of her kindly worded Forward…

What this book has turned out to be is even more exciting that I had ever hoped. Working closely with Alex to craft a guidebook that could be used by anyone who wants to learn to give or receive good cunnilingus, regardless of gender, has been an adventure. I especially loved that this book focuses on the experience of oral sex for both the giver and the receiver.

So much writing out there about cunnilingus is focused on techniques for giving oral sex to cis women, and often assumes that the “giver” is cis and a man. These “guides” are often mechanistic and do not consider the role of the receiver, and they tend to be very heteronormative as a result. I love that with The Cunnilinguist, Alex has chosen to open up the discussion to anyone who wants to give oral sex to someone with a vulva, and anyone with a vulva who wants to receive. There’s such a need for writing about sex that recognizes trans, nonbinary, and intersex people, and I think this book does an elegant (and fun) job of broadening the conversation beyond cisgender bodies.

The Cunnilinguist is the kind of book I wish I’d had available to my Sociology of Sexuality students. It manages to be both informative and well-researched while also being a fun, irreverent frolic. The description of the vaginal/vulvar/clitoral anatomy is worth the cover price alone, given how many people who possess these structures don’t know what they’re called or how they work. [I’ll be sharing some funky diagrams soon – watch this space]

This refreshingly modern guide takes the business of giving and receiving pleasure seriously, but never takes itself too seriously. It’s full of orgasm-inducing tips and techniques for both giver and receiver, presented with equal doses of good humor and practical, usable information. I also appreciate her careful attention to the social issues—gender socialization, religious shame, and more—that can impact the ways we are willing to give and receive pleasure.

Susan Harper, Ph.D

So there you have it. I’m self-publishing and, although I know I should probably hold back and market this properly, my target release date is Friday 1st February 2019 – just in time for Valentines. If you’re on my mailing list, I’ll be sending you a link to a promo copy towards the end of January. We’ll see what happens. Meanwhile find me on Amazon (tap “Follow” for updates) and watch this space!